Feeling to write something but don't know where to start. Hopefully this is not a post to bore you >_<
Backache - quite serious. Force myself to do some stretching exercise on the bed with closing eyes @_@ Wonder what's happening but I don't feel to eat medicine. Hopefully this is because of hormone change, part of pre-menstrual cycle.
Finger still swollen. This time, infection quite serious. Non stop applying antiseptic cream. The house is in mess. Kitchen is full of dirty dishes and rubbish. This morning I was quite piss off to see the kitchen and the full laundry bag, asking children - let's see, how many days we can last for not washing cloths and dishes and you all still having clean shirts to wear and enough cups for plain water. Let's see.
Lecturing children in the car. Trigger point was they mess up my workstation's stuff. Misusing my expensive materials for crafts. Nag and nag from the house to the school, only I alone talking, wonder if they have listened. Sigh.
Morning argument with laogong over the newly bought bowls. Sometime I do feel impressed for those old couples holding hands walking at the park. How many up and down they have been through as a couple of husband and wife before they still can stick together to be life companion at the old age. Not easy. When 2 persons can argue and conflict created from small issues eg even a single bowl purchase or big issue to which school to send the children to, which restaurant to choose for son's wedding luncheon or dinner. Not easy huh. My parents loving partnership are always inspiring me.
Instruction for Christian households
在卡玛著《毁掉中国人婚姻的18个问题》，她谈到《双方家庭的摩擦 - 嫁给（娶）一个人，也就是嫁给（娶》了一个家庭》个案里，提供了以下避免矛盾的六大法宝：
1。夫妻双方最好都有些私房钱，给自己的家人钱、物时，无需告知对方。
2。如果有可能，不要和公婆住在一起。
3。自己的孩子是最好的，所以永远不要在公婆面前说丈夫的不是，也不要在岳父母面前说妻子的不是。
4。给自己的父母花了多少、买了什么，永远别让对方的父母知道；同样，给对方的父母花了多少、买了什么，也永远别让自己的父母知道。
5。夫妻之间的矛盾，自己想办法解决，千万别让彼此的家人掺和进来，更不要向自己的家人诉说对方的不是。
6。现在好多夫妻双方都是独生子女，所以逢年过节去谁家过是一个很容易让夫妻及双方家庭产生矛盾的问题，应该慎重对待，根据各自的实际情况想办法妥善处理，务必做到皆大欢喜。
Some reading on conflicts avoiding in marriage to build happiness - copied from the web. 4.5/6 I have achieved :p so my marriage happiness level should be 75%? Hehe
Have a nice Thursday!
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