Anniversaries

Today, when I read this from my cousin brother's fb, can really feel he is in ocean deep love with her cute gf. Young couple, 'you love me, I love you' and those kissing and hugging photos publish publicly :)

Think of what we were doing last time, when we were totally in love with our love one, the whole world was only him! Every night sleep in sweetness, chat in honey sweet tone..
When we grow matured, when our days and nights are not only you and me, then stories changed...

Scolding and yelling getting more common. Running around the house in rushing hours..

Either we try to avoid getting sick, or even we are sick, we try to go to work so we don't need to stay at home to be more sick..

All the ups and downs.. Made memory.. All the tears and scars, made wisdom. All the complaints and sour faces, made understanding.

Sometime we would wonder, why I chose to marry him or her, why things and feeling have changed, why sweetness turned to bitter..

Day by day, we realise, there is a reason God has put us together. Different addresses, different backgrounds, likes and dislikes.. You got what I don't have, I can help you out what is lacking in you..
Then we started to recall, what made us choosing each other as a life time partner. Then we accommodate what please our partner :)

We build family

We let the family grow with love

We maintain the growing family with laughters..

We celebrate wedding anniversaries year by year in growing numbers :)
2013 - 10 years anniversary of my marriage and 40 years for my beloved parents :)

Friday dah!

Double check if today is Friday when I am wearing casual t-shirt. Time flies so fast! Yesterday talking to my colleague, say Christmas coming and Chinese New Year too! Treasure time, coz time flashes fast.



Nah, 1 of the best way of maximising your time in the car - my girl completing her homework and eating breakfast biscuits at the same time! The activity book got missing 1mth+ ago, finally we found it after few times of teacher punishment @_@ so now she is completing half of the book pages...



2nd thing you can do during traffic jam - chit chatting, singing, lecturing, laughing with children :p siap can snap pic when royee busybody seeing Eva doing homework.

Happy Friday to you! Pen off 1st!

1st oct royee bday

October is a busy and happening month in my family ^^


We start with eldest son's birthday :D


A whole day time thinking where to celebrate and how to celebrate the boy's birthday, but what he wants is only his favourite restaurant..


The chicken rice shop!


Running to the restaurant happily!


Sharing his feeling of unfairness teacher treating him. He got 2 ejaan words wrong, instead of 2 strokes, teacher cane him 6! :(



The birthday boy eating the rice quietly..coz he spill one glass of soya bean >_< then papa lectured him..


And you can see Eva also not smiling.. Coz after the 1st spill, we got another glass of soya bean spill over the table and floor @_@


Ya, for the 1st time this girl is proudly announcing this - I secured my soya bean, now like gogo and mei mei! :p

After the chicken rice shop we went to secret recipe for cake slices..


Papa and bbb ^^


Mama and bbb^^


Har? I am only 1 year old ar? 'The cake slice is small, if we put 8 candles later the cake got burnt oo!' :D



With the light' on :) my 8 year old boy ^^


We ordered 3 slices of cake, we let royee tasted all 3 flavours 1st...


Then we wallop all! :D


ya never forget a family pic on this special day ^^ from the picture your know who always stick with papa, who is closer with mama, who is always the middle man and feeling observer :p


Started dah, playing with the candle..


^^


Bought him a pair of school shoes. For toys, we wait for weekend..

So after papa spending for the dinner and cakes, mama said 'let's go, mama treat you all herbal tea!' :D


I know it sounds cheaper but children like it!


Especially when 5 of us can do this simple thingy together ;)


Why the angel is with this face expression?



Coz funny to see the papa drinking bitter tea :p



Everyone got a good laugh and left the mall :p

oct swing

这世界笑了
于是你
合群的一起笑了
当生存是规则不是你的选择
于是你
含着眼泪
飘飘荡荡跌跌撞撞地走着

Ended last night with terrible mood, started this morning with frustration. Feeling tired of my daily life these few days.




能不能就让配角全部结束在此刻 重新开始活着

Fire up! Ready to go!

1st oct 2013

'Today is a special day!' Royee came to me with smile :)


Ya! Today is my son's birthday!


We had pre-birthday celebration last night. 1st time for bbb to taste chicken rice balls. Their excitement worth for the money spent ^0^


When I was showering, he shared this..

Mama, I have 3 wishes. 1st, I want a larger school shoes. This is is a bit tight.
'Your shoes are newly bought by grandma oo, means you have grown up so fast! Am now worried, very soon you gonna be taller than mummy lo ^0^'

2nd wish is ---toys hehe
'Ok, this weekend we will look for one :)'

3rd wish is I want papa to be a Christian.
' :) you tell papa about this. Let's pray for papa :)'

Happily, the boy walked away ^^

A simple and yet meaningful wish list for what-a-boy wants :)



To remember my 8th year in motherhood, last night I shared with bbb on the success story of jay chau, how he went thru the downtime in his childhood and then how he never give up before he got his success. Then this morning, wefollowed with his song 'listen to mama's words 听妈妈的话'



Tonight will be a night of small celebration to my 8 years old big boy ^^

　
妈妈的辛苦 不让你看见 　　
温柔的事 是否在她心里面 　　
有空就多多握著她的手 　　
把手牵著一起梦游 　　
听妈妈的话 别让她受伤 　　
想快快长大 才能保护她 　　
美丽的白发 幸福中发芽 　　
天使的魔法 温暖中慈祥

Punishment

These few days am a bit worried and tired at the same time on children characters education.












Lately, few closed friends and relatives talking about the best way to teach my children to obey instruction or behave themselves are by caning them. I wonder, this way of punishment would it be a permanent solution or it serves as temporary effect to calm parents down?

I want my children to be good too. I feel unhappy and frustrated when children not following instruction or doing not-so-right things in front of or behind me. I am not the mother who disagree fully on caning children. However, when to cane? The effectiveness of corporal punishment?



I always think this, when we get a light cut by paper, we accidentally hit by car door, we got a slap by a baby.. We normally 'ouch! It is painful!' So, imagine an angry parent, with full of anger and frustration, with the thought of hoping the child to be good, the big lash of cane 123 strokes laid on the child tenderly skin.. Won't it hurts? This actions have hurt the child body, soul, trustworthy and respect... And the same time, when you see the mark on the body, won't be the parent's heart tearing?


Now everyday confuse me is am I doing right things to my children? If one day in the future, my children are names as bad persons, would I be blamed for my so called love education? The lovely teaching way of me, would it brings warmth to my children?

At home, most of the time I won't say 'if you do this, I will hit you打你' normally I say 'if you do it next time, I will punish you惩罚你' coz, beating is not a friendly word, when you mention the word, you have already felt the pain.

Today, it comes to a deal made situation. I express my frustration to my children. I said many people asked mummy to cane you so you listen to mummy. But I don't want to treat you like an animal. But the limit is always there. I will definitely cane you if you don't follow the God's 10 commandments.


'If I find you cheating, lying, not honest, bad relationship with guys and girls, I will punish you. I will surely cane you'

Guess what, I feel empty after saying this. Ahh.. What a day start. My mama said this when I leaving the house, 'you need to give more time to royee, need to teach him now before it is too late' hmmm...



Sometime we as parents, we are too sensitive or over react to children behaviour. What we see in the world, might not the same as their view. To get the balance point, rules and regulations need to be set. To come up the best way is staying together - patience, love, time.